I hear statements like these at least once a day, sometimes more. It always strikes me as bullshit. Why? Because it really isn’t true. We all have the same amount of time available to us each day. It really boils down to the choices we make in our lives daily, monthly and yearly.
All of these scenarios boil down to boundaries. Are you creating and honoring your boundaries? I will tell you this: no one will honor your boundaries or your time except for you. Some Moms can’t go into the bathroom without their kids following them in there. Other people allow employees to bug them for every little problem because they feel obligated to put out all the fires. If you aren’t enforcing time-related boundaries, I guarantee there are other areas in your life where boundaries are also being crossed.
Look at your calendar a week at a time and create what I call “white space time.”
White space is blank time on the calendar that is reserved for just you. It could be 30 minutes twice a week or more or less. Start with a time that is ‘easy’ at first. Block it off the calendar for the next four weeks. It is important to pick a time manageable enough that you won’t easily sacrifice it. Pick a time frame that you are willing to commit to. If it’s 15 minutes twice a week, that’s great.
The whole point of this exercise is to get you used to the idea of you choosing yourself no matter what. If you are unwilling to commit to a few minutes twice a week, what does that mean for the rest of your time (and life)?
If anyone asks you to do something during these time frames, there are a few lovely responses you can say that respect your time while also respecting their time:
- “I am not available at that time/date. But thanks for asking.”
- “I choose to use my time in this other way.”
Notice: you aren’t saying “I don’t have time.” You are respecting your choices with time. It’s completely different. And in the end more empowering.
Okay, off you go. It’s practice time. Get this on your calendar. Let me know how it goes in the comments below. Next time we will go into more time management. One step at a time my peeps. :)
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