Stop “talking the talk” and start “walking the walk.” I ask this of clients all the time because it's so easy to fool ourselves we’re doing enough, when we really aren’t. I recently experienced this myself! I thought I was not fooling myself, but that’s exactly what I was doing, in more than one area of my life. I kept bemoaning, “Why, oh, Why?! I’m working so hard to change!” Yet, life was showing me a different reflection...the opposite of what I supposedly really wanted. When I looked closer at the reflection, I had to admit, maybe I was actually getting what I was asking for. Yep, I was in denial of what I really, really wanted. It was bullshit, bullshit, bullshit.
When is the last time someone called you out on your bullshit? It doesn’t happen every day. I call people out on their bullshit all the time, but it is not often I get called out on mine. Nothing stops you in your tracks like being called out on your BS. It can be a little painful and your natural reaction might be to get defensive, but if you can take a step back and acknowledge it, I know you’ll feel more fulfilled.
What does Bullshit sound like?
Just in case you aren’t sure what bullshit sounds like, here are some common lines that reek of it:
Sound familiar?
Now, that we’ve established your BS quotient, here is my next question:
What do you REALLY want? Take a moment to paint the picture in your mind.
If this showed up your life right now, what would it require from you? Who would you need to be? Is it possible that there might be some vulnerability that needs to surface? Is it possible you need to own your habits, your ability to avoid?
When we fool ourselves, we don’t take action on what we really want, and we don’t live a fulfilling life.
- “I don’t have time”
- “I don’t understand why I keep repeating the same mistakes”
- “He/she is crazy or doesn’t understand me”
- “I don’t understand why the universe/world/God [insert appropriate term here] keeps me from what I really want”
- “I’m not an organized person by nature”
- “I’m so busy running the kids around that I don’t have time to get organized”
- “I really try and nothing changes”
Sound familiar?
Now, that we’ve established your BS quotient, here is my next question:
What do you REALLY want? Take a moment to paint the picture in your mind.
If this showed up your life right now, what would it require from you? Who would you need to be? Is it possible that there might be some vulnerability that needs to surface? Is it possible you need to own your habits, your ability to avoid?
When we fool ourselves, we don’t take action on what we really want, and we don’t live a fulfilling life.
What are You Fooling Yourself About?
A fulfilling life doesn’t mean, easy, perfect, etc. It means you allow yourself to experience all of life. You surrender, you trust. You are okay with whatever shows up, whether it’s adversity, laughter, fun, or adventure. Because in the end, you need to be at peace with yourself, no matter what. The good, the bad, the ugly. By the way, this takes courage. It’s not something everyone on this planet (or even most) are willing to attempt. But if you can own your bullshit and be with whatever shows up in your life, in yourself….then nothing can stop you. If you know you can handle whatever comes your way, then you can get through anything. I promise.
What are you willing to face about yourself today? Go ahead, be honest. Own it. Then tell me about it in the comments below or at least tell someone in your life. Tell me/them you are now owning the fact you have been bs’ing yourself. Then commit to stopping.
Image credit: #bullshit button is back in rotation :) by Arpit Gupta via Creative Commons License Attribution 2.0
What are you willing to face about yourself today? Go ahead, be honest. Own it. Then tell me about it in the comments below or at least tell someone in your life. Tell me/them you are now owning the fact you have been bs’ing yourself. Then commit to stopping.
Image credit: #bullshit button is back in rotation :) by Arpit Gupta via Creative Commons License Attribution 2.0
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