- Idea Ilene
- Nervous Nellie
- Empathetic Ellen
- Adventurous Allie
- Hippie Helen
- Pusher Pam
- Naysayer Nina
- Playful child Carrie
Feel free to change the names. I’m not attached to them :)
For example, say you’re attempting to sleep-in one morning and you start to feel guilty about it. Thoughts go through your head such as, “You need to get out of bed.” “If you lay here all day you will never get anything done.” “You won’t be successful in life if you don’t get up.” “You will run out of money if you stay in bed.” “You don’t need any more sleep, get moving.”
Sounds like Nervous Nellie, Pusher Pam, and Naysayer Nina are running the show. The first step here is to take a step back and recognize that Nellie, Pam, and Nina are concerned about your welfare. Be aware of them and ask them why they keep pushing you (this is the Voice Dialogue part). There’s a good chance they’ll say, "I don’t want you to be homeless.” “I don’t want you to miss out on life.” “I worry about you.” “I want you to be happy.” They want you to be safe and happy, which is why they are putting the pressure on you. Their intentions are good, but they just need to calm down, so the next step is say, “Thanks for your concern, but you’re putting unfair pressure on me right now."
If you can’t calm any of those voices, this is when to bring compassion to yourself. Have compassion for Nervous Nellie, Pusher Pam, and Naysayer Nina. Have compassion for your awareness of them and inability to alleviate the pressure. Have compassion for your struggle in this moment. Time and time again, when I have awareness with the inner team who is speaking and I bring compassion forward, I discover peace. This frees me up to be in the moment and flow of life. AND, I will get up and get things done in a free flowing energy kind of way, instead of a guilt/forcing kind of way.
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